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The Wholesome Date Idea Thread
The year is 2020. Tuthmosis' First Date Bang Recipe is out and Christian Side Hugs are in.

As a reformed player, one of my biggest problems has been figuring out what to do for dates. My girlfriend doesn't drink, and there's only so much time you can spend looking at each other in coffee shops.

What about coming over to my place to cook dinner or watch Netflix? No way. That's a fast track to falling into lust, especially when you know how to put the moves on her.

Therefore, it's clear to see why so many Christians recommend dating in public only. They recommend dates to take place in a public or group setting, and that you two should never be alone in your apartment together.

That sounds great, but then what should you do for dates?

Many traditional daters recommend spending time at Church events only. This sounds great in theory, but not in practice. If I followed that rule I would only see my girlfriend for maybe 2-5 hours a month.

So, I'd like to start this thread to tally off some wholesome date ideas.

Dates where you're in public and get to spend time together without the physical temptation of lust.

Here's some ideas I've jotted down:

Coffee shops
Eating out (we love getting fish tacos on Friday)
Bookstores
Church events - adoration, lectures, mass
Sports events
Hiking
Musical performances
Volunteering
Pro-life rallies/marches

Any other ideas? Drop 'em below.

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02-02-2020 11:43 AM
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Doing any sport, even silly activities like those foam archery or ax throwing places that are suddenly everywhere.
02-02-2020 12:08 PM
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- Badminton
- Mini Golf
- Sightseeing
02-02-2020 12:14 PM
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- Cinema
- Lecture
- Ice Cream
- Museum/ Exhibition/ Art Gallery
02-02-2020 12:51 PM
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Volunteering weeds out the selfish ones really fast.

“That sig BTW is a very asinine anti-family anti-parent quote. You live in a country where 40% of children grow up without a biological father, yet somehow “the greatest burden a child must bear is the unlived life of its parents”? Sorry but this is fruity Boomer nonsense.”

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02-02-2020 12:56 PM
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- Nature walks / Forests / Gardens / Large Parks and reserves / Waterfalls
- Quaint country touristy towns / Farmers markets / Local produce
- Lookouts / Dams/water / Kayaking/Boating
02-02-2020 08:13 PM
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Visiting local history sites, castles, old houses, gardens etc
02-03-2020 12:34 AM
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There is an excellent list in this Word document:

https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=...vVyiUBg5xn

It's aimed at (female) university students in the United States, but a lot of these options apply worldwide, with a bit of adaptation and localisation:

Go bowling at Union South
Watch a movie
Play cards
Play video games
Sing karaoke
Go ice-skating at the Shell
Go dancing
Play a board game
Go to a sports game
Drink some tea
Take a bath
Go to Free-Art Fridays at Memorial Union
Read a book for fun
Go the Nat or SERF
Play World of War craft
Get a massage at UHS
Join an intramural sports team
Go to the Chazen Museum of Art
Watch a play at the Mitchell Theater
Go to a concert on the Union Terrace
Watch a show at the Overture Center
Get some ice cream
Play DDR/Guitar Hero
Go to the free movies at Memorial Union
Go shopping
Visit the MSC Satellite
Play racquetball
Try tight-rope walking
Cook something
Watch TV
Look at the stars
Play Frisbee
Visit the arboretum
Go to the Henry Vilas Zoo
Go biking
Walk to Picnic Point
Hang out with people
Join a club
Write
Learn a new language
Visit the observatory across from Liz
Have a dance party
Go sailing
Go rock-climbing
Volunteer
Take a tour of Camp Randall
Go swimming
Learn how to knit
Jump in the lake
Join Hoofers
Go paintballing
Eat at an ethnic restaurant on State Street
Play Magic the Gathering
Go running
Talk with people
Go skiing
Draw
Go sledding/traying
Go canoeing
Go to the farmer’s market
Paint a picture
Take a walk
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02-04-2020 09:51 AM
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(02-02-2020 11:43 AM)redbeard Wrote:  What about coming over to my place to cook dinner or watch Netflix? No way. That's a fast track to falling into lust, especially when you know how to put the moves on her.
Wait, if she's your girlfriend and an LTR, what's bad about this idea?
02-04-2020 10:53 AM
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Physical affection, even passionate kissing, is a near occasion to sin. Couples should do their best to avoid temptation to have sex. A foolproof way to do this is to stay out of your apartment.

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02-04-2020 11:25 AM
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Stay active and bring her into your life. Thinking of going to a gallery opening? Invite her along. Want to check out a cool secret spot in nature? Invite her along. Her ability to mesh with your life as it is now is a great test of compatibility.
02-04-2020 12:35 PM
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