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Meet a girl & have kids in the next 12 months
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RE: Meet a girl & have kids in the next 12 months
The language factor in Romania does appeal, and the have some stunning countryside there. I'm just a little put off by the amount of gypsies there (although half of them seem to be in the UK tbf).

I've heard Bucharest is a bit of a dump too. And the second city (which slips my mind) is a bit of a lefty arty place (comparitively at least).
01-06-2020 05:53 PM
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RE: Meet a girl & have kids in the next 12 months
Slicky Dude, I think this quip you made is probably the key to everything:

Quote:The short answer is the marriage is more likely to last so long as both parties want the same thing out of the marriage, not hobbies or common interests.

I'm divorced (long time ago), and my ex wife and I had a lot of common interests. But the marriage itself was rudderless, so I ended it. Though I wasn't ready to have kids 9 years ago, I could not see myself having kids with this person even eventually. She was so awkward around children and I was not, it sort of made a bad impression on me. Additionally, she was a big feminist. Her long-term plan was more tattoos and cut her hair short.
Ironically, she did get remarried to an older guy with kids, but she's still ambivalent about kids (after talking to her recently). She was a nice girl, but I don't think I should have married her.

Quote:if you seriously can't get past the hang up about your gene pool go find a Mormon community and consider conversion *maybe* you'd find an unspoiled 20something white girl who'd get with you, but even then they aren't what they used to be.

Also, on Mormonism,
I've considered it. However, it's a big culture shock for someone like me. I've always liked Mormons, I've known a few. My biggest problem with Mormons is the ban on alcohol, coffee, and the tithing (which can be as high as 10% of your income). Definitely have to find a Mormon in Utah though, the Mormons outside of Utah are surprisingly liberal and you don't get the same 2:1 ratio of single females to men > 30 or so.
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01-07-2020 10:25 PM
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RE: Meet a girl & have kids in the next 12 months
Elmore, I’m the same age as you and in a similar situation. Prospects of wife material in London are not great, but to be fair I’m an entrepreneur building my own business 7 days a week day and night, so I rarely have time to meet anyone right now. Do you have the Meetup app? There are usually many girls to meet at different social events on this app, such as language exchanges, sports activities, museum visits etc. Also you could join yoga classes which girls like. Or even better Salsa classes where you get to chat and dance with the girls too. Probably better than meeting a drunk girl in a bar Wink You don’t necessarily need to change country - you may get lucky and find one decent girl where you are. Also take time to get to know her *and* her family if you plan to marry her. Best wishes and stay positive Smile
01-11-2020 07:10 PM
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(01-11-2020 07:10 PM)Castillo Wrote:  Elmore, I’m the same age as you and in a similar situation. Prospects of wife material in London are not great, but to be fair I’m an entrepreneur building my own business 7 days a week day and night, so I rarely have time to meet anyone right now. Do you have the Meetup app? There are usually many girls to meet at different social events on this app, such as language exchanges, sports activities, museum visits etc. Also you could join yoga classes which girls like. Or even better Salsa classes where you get to chat and dance with the girls too. Probably better than meeting a drunk girl in a bar Wink You don’t necessarily need to change country - you may get lucky and find one decent girl where you are. Also take time to get to know her *and* her family if you plan to marry her. Best wishes and stay positive Smile

I second the language exchange and yoga class ideas. These were my prime sources of meeting women in the US when I was single years ago. One time I even met an actual feminine, attractive white American girl of Anglo-Saxon origin in her twenties who might have been good marriage material. No tattoos, went to church, and so on. I didn't end up with her due to lack of game, but I suppose it's still possible to meet women like her at such events, if not something that's going to happen every time you go to one.

I don't like dancing and I'm bad at it, but I have a friend who's great at Salsa and does well at those events too.

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01-12-2020 09:42 AM
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RE: Meet a girl & have kids in the next 12 months
This is stupid. Having kids is a gigantic decision and rushing it is about the dumbest decision you can make for yourself as well as your decedents. The repercussions of this decision will affect your great grandkids.
02-04-2020 02:09 PM
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RE: Meet a girl & have kids in the next 12 months
(02-04-2020 02:09 PM)gringoed Wrote:  This is stupid. Having kids is a gigantic decision and rushing it is about the dumbest decision you can make for yourself as well as your decedents. The repercussions of this decision will affect your great grandkids.

As OP addressed in his responses already he was not making a literal strict deadline. I don't think any thoughtful person would necessarily plan to "rush the decision", but rather OP wants to architect a strategy to put himself in the best possible position to make a successful family.

Also it's interesting that you mention grandkids, because the irony is that many Western men in today's world will not be procreating therefore not having grandkids.

(01-03-2020 03:37 PM)Elmore Wrote:  
(01-03-2020 03:32 PM)Lace em up Wrote:  You only really begin to know someone after a year. I wouldn't marry and imptrgnate a woman in 3 months just to reach some arbitrary deadline.

Well i wouldn't be sweating, looking at the calendar in November, if i'm on the right track. It's just 12 months as a means of focus and to instill a goal.
02-05-2020 11:50 AM
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RE: Meet a girl & have kids in the next 12 months
Add me to this group. I'm in the same boat.

I will add, going for a large regional area within your own country may also be a worthwhile option. Say a place 2-3 hours out of a capital city (e.g. 150k people sized cities for Australia).

I think there is a general trend that the more country/regional a town is, the better the wife material (marrying and kids earlier, age gaps more acceptable, less city/university corruption). My best wife prospects were simple life country girls that I met shortly after they moved to the big smoke. Also, their (younger) parents are closer for help with raising children, Christmas, etc.

Actually moving and spending 6-12 months (or frequently visiting them on weekends) might be a good way to meet some. Issue will be employment (depending on what you do). It might not be as good as Russia/FSU, but certainly easier than learning Russian and all the massive cultural, employment, weather and lifestyle differences.

This is just a working theory, would love to hear feedback and expand on this.
02-05-2020 10:00 PM
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(02-05-2020 10:00 PM)PixelFree Wrote:  Add me to this group. I'm in the same boat.

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I think there is a general trend that the more country/regional a town is, the better the wife material (marrying and kids earlier, age gaps more acceptable, less city/university corruption). My best wife prospects were simple life country girls that I met shortly after they moved to the big smoke. Also, their (younger) parents are closer for help with raising children, Christmas, etc.

Harder to meet people, though, just in that there are fewer and you're an outsider in a way you're not in a city (even a city you just moved to).

This is a very hard thing to balance, something I, like you, and I think a lot of us are trying to figure out.
02-05-2020 10:09 PM
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