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@gework- Thank you.
No kidding about the culture barrier... People out here can seem either very kind or very rude with seemingly no explanation. It's also a pretty judgmental culture and they expect people (especially men) to just figure everything out and automatically have a plan/know how to do everything without help.
I studied Russian culture online, read 2 books about it, and asked as many questions as I could before coming out here, and I was still completely swept away by the bizareness of it all. My fiance's only experience with American "culture" is watching movies like Titanic with Russian dubs, so she literally complained about me being "not romantic" because I'm not on the level of Leonardo DiCaprio in a blockbuster film. Sounds eerily familiar, honestly... The worst instance of this was on the first week, when I paid for a massive, homemade gift box for her, with many of her favorite things inside (Nutella, Cherry Pepsi, clothing items, flowers...). Her first question was if her friend helped me pick out these items, and when I said yes, she said "Oh, it's not interesting, then," and never even bothered to say thank you. Yeah, I considered breaking our relationship multiple times, especially after this sh**. I can't even picture an American female reacting like that.
On the other hand, she waits on me hand-and-foot during mealtimes, regularly gives me gifts like homemade chocolates and notes, and shows general signs of thoughtfulness and attention.
I've seen that pretty much everything I know about "Game" gets thrown out the window with her (which might be a good thing), and beta behavior that would get me eaten alive in the West actually has positive results with her. For example, she occasionally asks me if I'm offended by her. I used to say "no" all the time to avoid looking weak, but when I say yes, her reaction is usually something like "Ohhh, my sweetie" and fawning over me with hugs and kisses (the kisses only happen when we're alone). Yeah, lots to learn about this place...

@Elmore- Not great... even after a few weeks of total immersion, I usually use the cases incorrectly or not at all, and don't use verbs of motion correctly. Vocabulary is enough for survival if I was stranded here with no ability to use English. I can usually speak to be understood, though it's instantly clear I'm a foreigner- in the words of my fiance, my accent is ужасный/horrific...
After studying alone and using video calls to practice as often as possible throughout 2019, it still took about 2-3 weeks before I could comfortably deal with daily interactions, and even then, misunderstandings are still common. After about a week in person, my girl and I were able to communicate with minimal-to-no translator usage, but certainly nothing complex. Russian is a very tough language, and the cultural barriers are as difficult as the language itself.
02-03-2020 12:26 AM
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RE: Wife Hunting Abroad
It's very interesting how women value gifts in other countries.

Western women are like, "Yeah, OK." to pretty much anything.

Whereas non-Western women may get close to tears at a few trinkets.

A good gift I bought in Russia was this:

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They sell them in Chitai Gorod, but are better to get online.

I know a language teacher from Serbia who knows 14 languages to some extent. You would expect they would find Russian to be relatively easy given it's similarities to Serbian, but they say it's the most difficult.

I am getting quite good with short sentences, but really struggle following sentences.
02-03-2020 02:14 PM
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@gework- Those bears adorable! I think my girl would love it. Can you say exactly where in Китай Город they would be? Buying things online here has been more of a hassle than in person, at least so far.
02-05-2020 03:34 AM
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If you are in Moscow you can get them here. I went to three different branches of the shop and this was the only one that had a lot of them, about 100. The shop is shaped like an L and these are in the the small part of the L, near the counter, next to the stationery isles. In the other shops they only had a few of them that were packed in above the bookshelves.

I didn't want to go through with ordering online either. I believe they have things delivered to delivery points like Wildberries.
02-06-2020 04:14 AM
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Thank you. I always get Kitay-Gorod and Chitay-Gorod mixed up, especially in English (the "Chi" in Chitay makes me think of China).
I'll probably get one of these as a Valentine's Day gift. Even though Russians don't celebrate Valentine's Day, my fiance is aware of it. You're absolutely right about the gift thing with foreign girls.
02-07-2020 02:51 AM
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(02-02-2020 03:05 PM)Lighthouse Wrote:  I've been in Russia for only a couple months, but I completely agree with RobertBryce. God blessed me with a good girl already, but I've been studying Russian since September 2018, and I actually met her online (on a Russian-speaking Christian-only site) in June. I was on the site for about 6 months already when I met her, and all of my previous experiences there were disasters. So yeah, in-person beats online for sure.
Anyway, I got engaged to this girl shortly after the New Year. She's a lifetime Baptist, serves in the church multiple times a week, 21, virgin, has a still-together father and mother, doesn't speak English, doesn't want to come to America unless I insist (!), and is a 7-8 in attractiveness. Even so, my lack of a real social circle here and the language/culture barriers are serious problems, and we argue almost daily over misunderstandings and little things. Nevertheless, she's a gem compared to the psychos we're used to in the USA, and I would recommend that other Redpill Christians who are serious about this lifestyle consider living and finding a bride in Russia. I'd also be glad to hear any tips from the more experienced chaps out here ?

I opened a new thred here regarding EE women
https://www.rooshvforum.com/thread-74692...pid2058221

As for your situation, I think its a complicated one. I never had much to do with religious christian Russian girls. The ones that I met were unpleasant and bossy and obsessed with religion, intolerant of other peoples opinions. I feel like in Russia it makes no sence to search for extremely religious girls especially on christian dating websites. Christianity in Russia has been destroyed by the bolshevics, now its being used by the goverment as a propaganda machine. In Russia Id rather be with a girl who is not a devout Christian, doesnt go to church very often, but follows the general principles of christian morality and is willing to submit, to put her man first. The fact that your girl argues with everyday is a very bad sign. She seems very immature, too emotional and under the influence of hormones. I personally wouldnt date some like that. If you want a devout religious virgin you have more chance of finding one in Armenia, Georgia or Serbia. In Russia Id rather stick with slightly older girls who might have some experience and are wise, mature enough to keep a man happy in a relationship.
02-08-2020 03:24 PM
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Im currently planning out my itinerary in Mexico, in regards to date different women with the intention of a real relationship...

With that said, the plan is to fly from SFO to Puerto Vallarta for 3 days, Gaudalajara for 3 days, Mexico city 2 weeks, then Merida and Playa Del Carmen to finish.

Total about 4 weeks.

I'm completely gringo. Irish/german born and raised in SF..28 yrs old. blue eyes, no espanol. Point is it will be interesting considering I may stick out like a sore thumb down there. Anyone here recommend Puerto Vallarta for dating? I'm hearing mixed advice through out the internet because of the large homosexual community there.
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02-12-2020 01:36 AM
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(02-12-2020 01:36 AM)Pickens Wrote:  Im currently planning out my itinerary in Mexico, in regards to date different women with the intention of a real relationship...

With that said, the plan is to fly from SFO to Puerto Vallarta for 3 days, Gaudalajara for 3 days, Mexico city 2 weeks, then Merida and Playa Del Carmen to finish.

Total about 4 weeks.

I'm completely gringo. Irish/german born and raised in SF..28 yrs old. blue eyes, no espanol. Point is it will be interesting considering I may stick out like a sore thumb down there. Anyone here recommend Puerto Vallarta for dating? I'm hearing mixed advice through out the internet because of the large homosexual community there.

For 'dating'? You are there for 3 days, just enjoy the town a bit.

You might have some more luck in MX, but even two weeks you should not expect much. Most of the nice girls there take some time, and the low hanging fruit can be pretty bad.

My advice is to just enjoy the country. Its a great place for the most part. The food is decent and the history is amazing. There are some amazing women there, but unless you have pretty tight game and know how to select and meet good women on the streets, you are gonna be running around in circles.
02-12-2020 03:35 PM
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02-14-2020 12:38 AM
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My bad for being off topic but does anyone know why the travel section with all those threads have disappeared? I understand we can't talk about those kind of things any but that travel section had so much useful inform. Still possible to view to those threads ?
02-15-2020 02:23 AM
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(02-03-2020 02:14 PM)gework Wrote:  It's very interesting how women value gifts in other countries.

Western women are like, "Yeah, OK." to pretty much anything.

Whereas non-Western women may get close to tears at a few trinkets.

Western women are some of the most materialistic women on earth and demand the most expensive gifts.

Make our guns illegal and we'll call them "undocumented"
02-16-2020 11:56 PM
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I challenge people all the time, seriously not trying to be mean, about what a western woman even does anymore to show value to a man (for marriage). The list is unbelievably small, or, it's a total tradeoff since the ones actually good looking or in shape are such a small % of the lot.

I feel like if you asked any girl at random (who eventually wanted to get married) "What do you offer a man so that he'll marry you?"

Maybe 15 out of 100 could give you a reasonable answer.

Getting back to wife hunting abroad, I really like particular central and south american types, but do you guys also feel like the dysfunctional character of such places might be too much? This has been mentioned before and since I'm an outsider I don't have the family selection thing going so they just seem like a lot of fun to "hang out with" which may or may not be good for either of us, ultimately.
02-17-2020 06:53 PM
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